I’ve been asked for the longest by my White mommy friends the meaning of a “kitchen” in reference to their Biracial daughters’ hair. Although flavors of opinion may vary, I will give you my version. The term “kitchen” has a double meaning.Home-wise, the kitchen was where, when I was growing up, most little Black girls [...]

It’s official: Barack Obama is the President-elect of the United States of America, but what about his daughters’ nappy hair?As we come to the realization that this is not a dream, trickery, or tomfoolery the question is: How do you think the First Daughters will affect the self-image of your Biracial or Black daughter? Do [...]

I discovered Studs Terkel about 7 or 8 years ago. I was pregnant and needed something to read to help me through the sleepless nights. I drove a few towns over and went to a local thrift store. They had oodles of noodles of books, so I took my time, thinking that I had no [...]

… enter Kraft mayonnaise on the scene. I worked a small amount through my hair without washing it first. I then sprayed it with water and put on a conditioning cap.You know that mayonnaise contains a lot of fat when talking about your health, but you may not realize that it is actually very oily [...]

I broke one of my own nappy hair routine rules. Now, in the words of Natalie Cole, I’m catching hell. I don’t even want to touch my hair because I feel guilty …… because I knew better …Have you ever had one of those days where one minute everything is on schedule and the next [...]

I know. For eons you have been told that hair grease is good for Black folks hair and will make it grow. I’m here to say to you that this is a bold face lie!My mom and I have disagreed about this for years. She swears that it makes her hair grow and easier to [...]

I went into a local Black beauty supply store. The clerk and I were in deep conversation about current events. A beautiful Black acquaintance came in wearing a blondish wig or hair weave. I could not tell which because she had a kerchief on her head. She talked with the clerk about getting the straighter [...]

Today I saw a little black girl. Or so I think… She was struggling to move under her own power. She was struggling to move under the weight of a headful of weave.A fake ponytail to be exact. I wondered how many horses had to suffer just so that her mom could convince herself that [...]

Yes, I stole that title from Iyanla Vanzant’s book. I stole it because it perfectly applies.I had a discussion with a friend mine. We will call her ‘Nicki’ to protect the innocent. Nicki has 3 beautiful daughters. One is just an itsy bitsy infant and the other two are in elementary school. They both have [...]

I’m often asked about how to tame, manage, or handle nappy hair. Truth be told, there is only one way to address nappiness. This is a secret that has been passed down through the centuries.This is a secret that has been in plain view for centuries. It is one that you might not want to [...]