I’ve been asked for the longest by my White mommy friends the meaning of a “kitchen” in reference to their Biracial daughters’ hair. Although flavors of opinion may vary, I will give you my version. The term “kitchen” has a double meaning.Home-wise, the kitchen was where, when I was growing up, most little Black girls [...]

It’s official: Barack Obama is the President-elect of the United States of America, but what about his daughters’ nappy hair?As we come to the realization that this is not a dream, trickery, or tomfoolery the question is: How do you think the First Daughters will affect the self-image of your Biracial or Black daughter? Do [...]

I discovered Studs Terkel about 7 or 8 years ago. I was pregnant and needed something to read to help me through the sleepless nights. I drove a few towns over and went to a local thrift store. They had oodles of noodles of books, so I took my time, thinking that I had no [...]

… enter Kraft mayonnaise on the scene. I worked a small amount through my hair without washing it first. I then sprayed it with water and put on a conditioning cap.You know that mayonnaise contains a lot of fat when talking about your health, but you may not realize that it is actually very oily [...]

I broke one of my own nappy hair routine rules. Now, in the words of Natalie Cole, I’m catching hell. I don’t even want to touch my hair because I feel guilty …… because I knew better …Have you ever had one of those days where one minute everything is on schedule and the next [...]

I know. For eons you have been told that hair grease is good for Black folks hair and will make it grow. I’m here to say to you that this is a bold face lie!My mom and I have disagreed about this for years. She swears that it makes her hair grow and easier to [...]

I went into a local Black beauty supply store. The clerk and I were in deep conversation about current events. A beautiful Black acquaintance came in wearing a blondish wig or hair weave. I could not tell which because she had a kerchief on her head. She talked with the clerk about getting the straighter [...]

Today I saw a little black girl. Or so I think… She was struggling to move under her own power. She was struggling to move under the weight of a headful of weave.A fake ponytail to be exact. I wondered how many horses had to suffer just so that her mom could convince herself that [...]

Yes, I stole that title from Iyanla Vanzant’s book. I stole it because it perfectly applies.I had a discussion with a friend mine. We will call her ‘Nicki’ to protect the innocent. Nicki has 3 beautiful daughters. One is just an itsy bitsy infant and the other two are in elementary school. They both have [...]

I’m often asked about how to tame, manage, or handle nappy hair. Truth be told, there is only one way to address nappiness. This is a secret that has been passed down through the centuries.This is a secret that has been in plain view for centuries. It is one that you might not want to [...]

Yesterday it rained. My children and I stood outside and played in it. As I looked around, I noticed all the Laxy’s scurrying for cover! What is a Laxy? ‘Laxy’ is my word for someone with relaxed hair. Is it a derogatory term?Of course not!Instead of enjoying this replenishing gift, the Laxys were panicked about [...]

Have you ever wondered why you ever got your daughter that hair relaxer? Did you ever think about letting her go natural? Did it all seem too confusing and risky to seriously consider?Have you ever blown yet another Saturday and not to mention a good chunk of your paycheck just to get her hair ‘fixed’.If [...]

Have you ever wondered how to care for natural African or biracial hair? Did it all seem too confusing and risky to seriously consider?Have you ever looked at your daughter’s wonderfully nappy hair and thought ‘I wish I could get a comb through that’ or ‘I wished it would sling and blow in the wind’.If [...]

You guys wore me down. I finally have a blog! As you can see in the subtitle, this blog is about promoting virgin African hair for our daughters. I’ll try to blog a few times a week. I have to warn you though… you need a sense of humor to hang here. The mood will [...]